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by Ramsay Davila
A few days ago, with his kids surrounding him and my hand on his chest, I felt my dad‘s heart stop beating. He had been in the hospital for about a month, we tried everything possible to get him home to see my mom before she passed but unfortunately he didn’t make it in time.
A few days later he went on hospice. We brought him home, put him in the same place by the window, in the same bed my mother had died a few days earlier. He didn’t wanted to live in a world without his wife. Eight days apart from her was long enough for him.
As a kid, my dad was passed around from family to family, boarding school to boarding school, and was never shown much love. He overcame a very difficult childhood to become one of the most beloved people I’ve ever met. It’s hard for me to understand that someone who was showed such little love as a kid could learn to possess so much love for his own children.
He was constantly changing, learning, evolving to be a better person. He was the softball pitcher, grill master, the unofficial mayor of Melrose, the tickle monster, a burner, a mountain biker, a cab driver, a student of life, an amazing father, and husband to his wife of 52 years. You will be missed by many, pop.
The last time I saw Ralph I was visiting Nor Cal and we watched an NBA playoff game together at his house. Ralph and Luzita were good friends for many years as long time members of the Subud LA group. Eventually Ralph and Luzita moved up north and I moved up even further to Vancouver, Canada. Luzita was our midwife in the home birth of our son Brian. Ralph, you and Lusita will never be forgotten in our Hearts. All our Love, until we meet again…
Paul and Pamela Edwards
I’ve prided myself at the wonderful relationship I had with my husband Bart. It’s clear that we weren’t the only ones. Ralph and Luzita had a beautiful relationship that I saw from outside – as a Subud long-distance friend/brother/sister. I have been blessed by knowing them both.